Needless to say most of the times we come to no understanding, but true tolerance to me is exactly that, to not hold information when in disagreement. Tolerance is not to say that what works for one doesn't work for another, that's postmodern, that trivializes your believe, if it's the case your believe is in contradiction with the person you are debating. I have a different view about which books are 'healthy' and 'edify' than most of my friends, but I can't tell them what they read is good for them, because in my case my concept of healthy is derived from my believes, and again, I claim it's not my opinion what I'm sharing, but the Truth. However at the end of the conversation, I do not think of them as 'inferior' for making their choices, or I don't talk about them on their back. And even if they'd insult me or simply criticize me in my absence, true respect and tolerance is to not be upset about this, to still don't think of myself as better (since I also am guilty of the same on occassion). See, I still think what 'works' for me should 'work' for anyone, because I believe it to be the Truth...
Once I heard that is better to debate with a convicted budist than with a postmodern. The postmodern approach, that has permeated most of our culture, and that we hold at times even without noticing, it is deprecating of the opponent. First, the person being postmodern doesn't tell you all his/her truth but debates from a sense of superiority, since things are relative, since they don't believe there are truths and principles. Secondly, it accuses you of being intolerant if your view excludes his/her. Third, it believes to be superior because it includes everything and everyone, everyone but YOU, that is, because you have a Truth, a vision, a side on a matter that you live coherently and try to defend with the example of your life. I could say more, like a postmodern changes by convenience and it likes to be politically correct. It also defends at times not even 'his/her' own views, but it becomes the protector of 'others' who are not even represented, who did not ask for them to 'defend' them, who truly don't care and who would ultimately not act like the postmodern himself, precisely because they also hold definite and exclusive believes that they don't want to accommodate or subject to circumstantial ethics of the moment.
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If you didn't do it already, I encourage you to read Willa's post, Homeschool Toolbox. Like Willa, I like Gatto too. He is one of the first authors I read when I contemplated homeschooling. Like her, I also see the difference between not wanting to do something out of complacency, or judging that is not the right turn to take, or the 'bad pain and good pain'. And like her, I'm at a point where I can sincerely follow my insight more, and give me credit for that insight or common sense I know is an educated one, not just a fancy. As she says, to me planning and organization, if I take it to extremes, seems to be a drag from time with my family. We accomplish more when we have an open ended routine and a schedule with just the main blocks of time noted, and the fixed activities in the week.
I just like Willa's words, a protocol of some sort. That's exactly what I wanted to decide upon for this 'new year' that we'll start in July. I want a gentle routine, and I'm hoping those days a week devoted to 'different aspects' of our education, will simplify our day that I always tend to overload, and help with those aspects to not be scattered all over but to hopefully flow in a poetic cadence, and that the 'planning' will truly give me a good overview of the months and help me be better at those poetic parts of the learning you can't buy in a box. In a way it saves up lots of money, on the other hand, they require dedication and a mindset willing to get out of the home, not be grouchy for all the water paint cleaning, remembering that dancing to nice music is as important as the many extra books you want to read that day, and truly spend the time on the Internet looking for those videos and songs, and hymns, that you will be listening and watching those months.
I'm working more than in a detailed plan, on making the 'plan' a skin so that it doesn't show as a 'plan' at all. Does this make any sense? Now my challenge is really to be humble and stop from thinking that we can, should, and need all that exhaustive and rigid approach every day, every week, every month, but to also be diligent as to incorporate and prepare my disposition to be joyous when doing thinks such as the walks, dance, art studies... and patient instead of pushing to get to what "I", erroneously conceive to be the bone of education (ergo BOOKS BOOKS BOOKS). That's because of my faulty education or because grown ups, as Charlotte Mason says, have lost that ability to observe and be fascinated by the world around and we need to read about it in books, as I was translating yesterday from the most thought provoking words of CM about nature, that along with the Poetic Knowledge Book club are shaping my views of education.