Under Pressure

Under a lot of pressure today Iniesta scored a fantastic goal against the Dutch team and made us, the RED SPANISH TEAM, WORLD CUP WINNERS FOR  THE FIRST TIME IN HISTORY...but it's not that type of pressure the one I'm going to talk, but about the book entitled just like that, Under Pressure, by Carl Honoré.


Since I read it in Spanish, because the library had a copy with no requests in that language, I can't write a few excerpts of the book as I did in this post, but don't worry, I can surely tell you all about it.
The book is mainly about education, schools around the world, the ones that have happy students that do good with the world challenges, and the ones with students burned out with stress, unable to take risks and ultimately create and bring forth a new vision. He analyzes different cultures, competitiveness, childhood of today with hyper controlling parents, directed children as he calls them, the ones who do things because their parents force them to do them, directly or indirectly.


Although he doesn't refer specifically to homeschooling, I find it amazing how reading this book I could see thoughts similar to Charlotte Mason, Louv, and other authors who also speak about the importance of play, of being outdoors, of forming relationships...


Three thoughts from his book that impacted me positively:


* Childhood these days lacks of the freedom to be oneself, children know that. It's void of small adventures, secret trips, troubles and that glorious anarchism, moments of solitude and even boredom. Children end up conforming to the idea that the most important thing is getting those trophies instead of finding your own path in life. Childhood today is saturated with action, goals and consumerism, but it's certainly empty. (This is a total paraphrase inspired by the translation I've made from the Spanish text...PLEASE, THE CREDITS ARE ALL MR. HONORE'S, if you wish, visit HIS INCREDIBLY INSPIRING BLOG, and read his book, I recommend it.


* It's a big mistake to believe that everything we do as parents leaves an unforgettable mark in the life of our children. Yes, we are important, but their future doesn't rest in our shoulders as some want to think.


* Making relationships is something  too slow, complicated, and he adds "a not too elegant duty" that clashes with our consumerist culture, and the idea of instant gratification.


There were many other valuable thoughts, so I encourage you to read the book yourself, for example how the so called 'specialists' are mining our confidence as parents in many aspects of our children life, many great thoughts about exams, competition, the importance of giving children space, of having confidence in them...I think many will also take many ideas from what he speaks about the schools with good an bad practices, we can apply much of these to our homes. A good read!



11 opinion(s):

Books For Breakfast said...

I've got to stop reading your blog for awhile, Silvia. Sorry. Nothing personal. It's just that every time I read an entry, I must add another book to my already too-big TBR pile. ;) Sounds like a good one.

Silvia said...

LOL...I have the same problem with your blog, ha ha ha...no, I won't take it personal, you are very free to do as you please my friend!
Hugs,
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No Ordinary Me said...

What a cute pic.

Kim said...

Ramos! That is cute :) it was a good game and congrats!

Thanks for posting that point from the book about parents thinking that everything we do (and I suppose don't do) leaves a mark on our children. I do believe they watch everything we do and want to be like us but they have a sin nature that I have no control over! Just today I was harping on myself after my son destroyed a sand fort one of the kids made! He did say he was sorry but I thought, "What am I doing wrong here? What could I have done to prevent him from destroying a dirt fort?" Um, am I crazy? Nothing! He's a BOY with a desire to DESTROY :)

I hope to read this book also once I get through my own book list!

Silvia said...

Kim, LOL, that is true. I don't believe they have a sin nature, but I do know they definitely are capable of doing right AND WRONG...they are persons, they are not robots or puppets that act as a straight consequence of our directing them. As you say, who we are (the author says that too), more than what we 'make them do or not do', is what will influence them, and still that won't totally determine who they will become. We are important, but not essential, only God is. The only thing we can do (and it's not small), instead of trying to guide and direct them according to our ideals is to be the christians we should be, to be the best models for them, to raise them in the admonition of the Lord, and to pray for them, all things that clearly express the glory and power are His, not ours.
And I believe the children played wonderfully today, with forts destroyed and 'sand thrown into the air too" ha ha ha.
Ah, I also have a LONG LIST of TBR books, but I don't mind, I know that the list is longer than my time, and whatever gets read, fine, if not, it's just manly wisdom, so, unless is the Bible I try not to sweat anymore if I haven't read that classic or that new book.
Hugs,

Ellen said...

Fabulous post, Silvia! I most definitely want to read this book. And I may post your paraphrase about childhood on my FB page. Wow.

Silvia said...

I'm glad you've liked this post, Ellen. And sure, you can write this on FB, just be sure to give credit to Mr. Honoré.
It's an easy down to earth reading that has many common sense thoughts well expressed, and great researched information.

Renelle said...

I've throughly enjoyed readin your blog Silvia and so have left you a pressie at my blog at www.dovesrest.blogspot.com so please feel free to claim it or just enjoy it!
I love your homeschool choices for the children and reading for yourself. I too may have to stop reading the blog because I am going to be flat out reading your suggeations!!
Blessings, Renelle

Ellen said...

Fabulous post, Silvia! I most definitely want to read this book. And I may post your paraphrase about childhood on my FB page. Wow.

Books For Breakfast said...

I've got to stop reading your blog for awhile, Silvia. Sorry. Nothing personal. It's just that every time I read an entry, I must add another book to my already too-big TBR pile. ;) Sounds like a good one.

Kim said...

Ramos! That is cute :) it was a good game and congrats!

Thanks for posting that point from the book about parents thinking that everything we do (and I suppose don't do) leaves a mark on our children. I do believe they watch everything we do and want to be like us but they have a sin nature that I have no control over! Just today I was harping on myself after my son destroyed a sand fort one of the kids made! He did say he was sorry but I thought, "What am I doing wrong here? What could I have done to prevent him from destroying a dirt fort?" Um, am I crazy? Nothing! He's a BOY with a desire to DESTROY :)

I hope to read this book also once I get through my own book list!

 

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